The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know
and apply this secret. The result, millions of people are suffering undeserved
stress, trials, problems and heartache. They never seem to be a success in
life. Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be constantly
happening. There is constant stress, lack of joy, and broken relationships.
Worry consumes time, anger breaks friendships and life seems dreary and is not
enjoyed to the fullest. Friends are lost. Life is a bore and often even seems
cruel. Does this describe you? If so, do not be discouraged. You can be
different! Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change your life!
What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you.
90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control
over the 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down.
The plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver
may cut us off in traffic. We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is
different. You determine the other 90%!
How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light, but you can
control your reaction. Don’t let people fool you. You can control how you
react! Let’s use an example…
You’re eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened. What
happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for
knocking the coffee cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you
turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge
of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your
shirt.
Back downstairs you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish
breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave
immediately for work, so you rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you
are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph zone.
After 15 minutes delay – throwing away $60 on a
traffic fine – you arrive at school. Your daughter runs to the building without
saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you
forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terribly.
As it continues, it seems to get worse and
worse. You look forward to going home.
When you arrive home you find a small wedge in
your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
a. Did the coffee cause it?
b. Did your daughter cause it?
c. Did the policeman cause it?
d. Did you cause it?
The answer is D. You had no control over what
happened with the coffee. How you reached in those 5 seconds is what
caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened…
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say “it’s
OK honey, you just need to be more careful next time.” Grabbing a towel you
rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back
down in time look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She
turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss before you both go to work. You
arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on
what a good day you are already having. And from there it just gets better.
Notice the difference. Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Each
ended differently. Why? Because of how you reacted.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is
determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret.
If someone says something negative about you, do not be sponge. Let the attack
roll off like water on glass. You do not have to let the negative comment
affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction
could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out, etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you loose your temper?
Pound the steering wheel? (A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!)
Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them? Who
cares if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let that other driver ruin
your drive. Remember the 90-10 principle, and don’t worry about it!
You are told you lost a job. Why lose sleep or get irritated? It will work out.
Use your “worrying” energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late. It’s going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take out
your frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going
on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger, etc. Why get
stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the positive
results.
Get started today!
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